I heard a talk from a person about becoming a man. It was really great, but they said that a man is someone who puts the fun things away and starts dating and does important things in this life. In LDS land if you don't do things the right way you are considered a failure to some people. They went on to say that we should be focusing on dating and if we do we will meet that person we were supposed to meet. They basically just said that we should put the childish things behind and focus on becoming a man. I sat there and realized that everyone is at their own level in this life. They can peak at their own time. That is one thing that has always bothered me because people expect you to be like everybody else. If you are not trying to find a wife or do the right things, then you are considered a failure. I realized that nobody is a failure and that they will decide in their own time of when they want to grow up and become a man. If if they are not going to school or trying to progress, they are not failures. They have potential and they can become anything they want to be. That is why we can never give up on anybody because they can become great. You can't focus on what a person does not do, you need to focus on the things they do great. Why I get so passionate about this is simple, because people have doubted me in my own life. I have realized you can't worry what other people think because if you do you will become insane. All you have to do is what you can do and hope that God will carry you the rest of the way. I know that life is hard at times and sometimes it seems like it never will improve. It does and I realized no matter where we are at in this life, we can always make it. The most important thing I have ever learned in this life is to just keep moving forward. It has been hard, but in the end you realize it was worth it. I also want to say never stop believing in a person because anybody can change. We just have to help them and encourage them. It may take time, but it can happen.